SheeTacular's Hair Journey - Slide show!

@ sweet you are most welcome!!

Song of the day "Our Father You Are Holy" by Ricky Dillard and New G

Our Father You are Holy
We give You glory
And we bless Your name


In hair news I am tired of the phony puff already. I wore sew-ins for 2 years to stretch my relaxers and get treatment for my scalp to regrow hair. After I stopped its just hard for me to keep anything in or on my scalp.

Today I am rocking my real hair.




This is compared to December 29th 2009



I am glad I am participating in the Hide your hair challenge. It has taught me the importance of protective styling, moisture and TLC.

I can say that I usually don't have patience with my hair especially when detangling. I think I'm gonna stick with my last method concerning detangling. I will finger detangle before washing. I will wash concentrating on my scalp then detangle with my shower comb then the denman. It sounds like a lot but it's worth it to have length retention.

My hair is delicate and I should treated it as such.

My butter trio arrived from butters-n-bars yesterday. I will be doing some mixes as well as using them individually to see what Rogue likes and dislikes.

Today she is happy. She's soft and moisturized but tonight she is going back into hiding until Saturday or Sunday.

She looks happy and the growth is fantastic!! I love it!

Grow hair grow!!!

I guess it’s time for me to finally share my hair story.

I never really worried about my hair or cared about style growing up. I remember my mom pressing my hair (and burning me) then later putting Pressing Curl in a Jar in my hair when I was in elementary school. The first time I went without a perm was in junior high because I wanted a Jheri curl. So this was my first professional salon visit I got a cut and the curl, I loved it. I loved playing in my hair. My hair was never really long when it was pressed, relaxed or with the curl. Around 9th grade I was styling my hair blowing it out then wearing it curly. I started noticing that after I got a touch up my hair felt thin in the top but after a few months it felt normal so I never really paid it any attention. Around 11th grade I went back to the relaxer. I got touchups at home except for special occasions.

In the late 90’s my friend and associates were getting married so it seemed like I was a bridesmaid all the time. My salon visits became more frequent. Fast forward to 2001 my god-sister’s wedding. I went to the salon and my stylist asked me if I noticed the thinning in the top of my head. I told her yes and didn’t know what was going on. She told me to do scalp massages and the whole nine and if it didn’t get any better to go to a dermatologist. Well I didn’t. I just figured it would get better but it didn’t. So a couple of years went by I went to my hair appointment and she said “If you don’t do something about this spot it’s gonna be bald and I’ll be putting a piece there.” So that made me eventually get off my duff and go to the doctor. I don’t know what took me so long to act. In the back of my mind I knew there was a problem. My grandmother and all my aunt’s on my father’s side has lost or is losing hair and if I poll my cousins some of them are as well.

After going for some tests it was confirmed that some of my follicle were damaged but there was treatment they could do. They gave me biotin, told me to take some vitamins, apply Rogaine, and set me up on a regiment of shots. They also recommended that I stop relaxing my hair. I left my appointment thinking “He must be crazy. He doesn’t know what kind of hair I’m dealing with there is no way I can go without a relaxer. I got Jiggaboo hair.” But I have always been the curious type so I got online and started checking things out. I was like I can’t do that. So I started stretching my perms and wearing sew-ins. My hair grew longer than I remember it ever being. I did that for 2 years until my insurance stopped paying for the injections. They were out of my budget so I stopped everything. My hair was past my shoulders which was new to me. So now I was back going to my stylist now I started going every other week. There was new growth there but it never filled all the way in. I got tired of the long hair so I started cutting it. Then my scalp got bad dry spots I had dandruff like never before. One day I was surfing the net and started looking up natural hair on-line. I found Nappturality.com, going-natural.com, naturallycurly.com and eventually CurlyNikki.com.

I was addicted there was so much information out there then I started finding people on YouTube. HerFlyness’ channel really made me think “Wow, her hair is gorgeous.” Then I came across BlackOnyx77 and CoilsKinksCurls.

So I started having discussions about the process with my stylist and she told me whatever process I use to transition I need to protect from damage. She told me I could Big Chop anytime it just depended on how comfortable I would be with short hair. She recommended that 3 months would give me a nice TWA. I talked it over with a few people, not like I needed there permission but to see what the consensus was. Well the ones I thought would be supportive weren’t and the ones I thought wouldn’t be was. I talked to my dad he said “You would look just like you did when you were a baby. Plus you would look like your momma”. Fast forward to August 2008 we were preparing for my mom’s Celebration of Life party, I was looking for pics to go in the slide show and there were a lot of pics of her fro in puffs, hats, and headwraps.

Hair envy is something I always had in regards to comparing my hair to my mom’s and sister’s hair. I have my daddy’s hair which is light brown, dull looking and nappy (which I love now). I hated that no matter what I did to my hair it was a struggle to get any length but my sister could neglect her hair and wear ponytails all the time and it would grow like weeds.

So there was a lot to overcome in my mind but what kept me going was the fact that I would look different and I would be able to continue my journey to accept myself by changing how I perceived my hair. I have come to grips mostly about my full figuredness and I have learned to love my big eyes, nose and thick lips. I am working on my complexion and accepting and loving the same light brown, dull, and nappy hair.

Wow Shee I'm so glad you decided to share some more about your hair story!! It was a pleasure to read it and learn more about Rogue

Well congrats Shee you came along way!!! Remember God does not make mistakes we are ALL beautifully designed!

What a beautiful story....YOU are beautiful JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!! I have tears in my eyes because that complexion thing has always been an issue!! Love you sis!!

bholmes87 wrote:Wow Shee I'm so glad you decided to share some more about your hair story!! It was a pleasure to read it and learn more about Rogue

thanks for taking the time to read it. There is more but I decided to give you all the "short" version..lol

cocoeuro wrote:Well congrats Shee you came along way!!! Remember God does not make mistakes we are ALL beautifully designed!

Thanks Coco in my teenage years my pastor preached "Fearfully and wonderfully made" It just took me a while to really get it...now some people think I have taken it too far...but I love me some me..lol

sweetdrk1 wrote:What a beautiful story....YOU are beautiful JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!! I have tears in my eyes because that complexion thing has always been an issue!! Love you sis!!

Thanks Sweet...my problem was I always wanted to be darker because dark people had clear and beautiful skin...anyways I am doing Mary J. Blige and working what I got. Thanks for reading the story..love you too.

Shee, I like your REAL puff too. Your hair has grown, so keep up the good work.
And thanks for sharing your story. I know it was not easy to do, but someone needed to hear that. Life's journey is such a process of acceptance and being thankful for what you already have. Some times we look at ourselves and see lack of whatever: beauty, money, intellect, etc. But if we look at the world around us, we see people living with no hope for tomorrow, living below poverty level, living with no sight, hearing, or speech, living homeless, living disabled, etc. Then we realize how blessed we truly are. If we only could focus on our positives (and everyone has some) and what makes us unique, we will be better off. Because the truth is there will always be someone prettier, smarter, wealthier, etc. But there is only one you on this planet. No one else has the same fingerprint or DNA. We are created uniquely and wonderfully. And if we don't focus on that and bring our positives to light and step out and do whatever God has called us to do, the world is at a lost and the grave will gain more rich dreams that never came to be.

Thanks again.

“He must be crazy. He doesn’t know what kind of hair I’m dealing with there is no way I can go without a relaxer. I got Jiggaboo hair.”

lol jiggaboo hair. Well im so glad that things are working out and that you are accepting yourself. Also i see why you understand me and "my sisters hair" situation now . Thanks for sharing your story

Thanks for sharing you hair story!!! I know it will help someone else.

Intelligentbeauty wrote:Shee, I like your REAL puff too. Your hair has grown, so keep up the good work.
And thanks for sharing your story. I know it was not easy to do, but someone needed to hear that. Life's journey is such a process of acceptance and being thankful for what you already have. Some times we look at ourselves and see lack of whatever: beauty, money, intellect, etc. But if we look at the world around us, we see people living with no hope for tomorrow, living below poverty level, living with no sight, hearing, or speech, living homeless, living disabled, etc. Then we realize how blessed we truly are. If we only could focus on our positives (and everyone has some) and what makes us unique, we will be better off. Because the truth is there will always be someone prettier, smarter, wealthier, etc. But there is only one you on this planet. No one else has the same fingerprint or DNA. We are created uniquely and wonderfully. And if we don't focus on that and bring our positives to light and step out and do whatever God has called us to do, the world is at a lost and the grave will gain more rich dreams that never came to be.

Thanks again.

This is nothing but the truth. Girl!! You preaching fo sho...lol. Seriously sometimes it takes some of us more time to get it. Now that I've got it I try to hold on to it. Sometimes its hard but I press on and perservere. Thanks for the love. Smooches.

Cherry: extraordinary! wrote:

“He must be crazy. He doesn’t know what kind of hair I’m dealing with there is no way I can go without a relaxer. I got Jiggaboo hair.”

lol jiggaboo hair. Well im so glad that things are working out and that you are accepting yourself. Also i see why you understand me and "my sisters hair" situation now . Thanks for sharing your story

I so understand and the thing is my sister has issues with her hair!! Go figure it seems we always find problems with what ever we have.

ChrsLvsBks wrote:Shee, thanks for sharing your "short" hairstory . I am loving my tan right now because my acne scars are less visible.

I LOVE the avatar.

I saw a comment through notifications on FB about the color of my hair. I could not find the comment later when I could respond. I have not found the comment but I can say it was the henna on my grays.

LOL yeah I started it a long time ago and its just been sitting on my thumb drive marinating. BeautifulBrwnbabydol on YT says she uses Mederma (http://www.mederma.com/) It's expensive and used for scaring but she puts it on pimples when they start so they won't leave a mark. I'm thinking about getting some and there is a coupon on the site.

I am glad u like the avatar. I know it's been a minute since I updated it.

Ok I was just wondering about the color. It's beautiful. Your hair is beautiful. You Are Beautiful!!

Lynnieluve wrote:Thanks for sharing you hair story!!! I know it will help someone else.

I hope it does to. I hate to type all that for nothing J/K..lol
Thanks for reading.

LOL, you always got jokes! I love your personality!

Lol i think that we, as humans, just have a "gift" for acknowledging the bad in a situation. Thats probably why we get mad at bad drivers and pay no mind to the good ones.

I'm probably late. But I just wanted to pop in and say that I'm loving the new avatar.

lving the avatar!!

You are killing the avatar!! go girl

Thanks Ladies!!

I enjoyed reading your story. I've been on CN all day today, (so I'm not getting much work done) but I'm glad I stopped by to read your thread!!! As I always say we are all beautifully and wonderfully made!!! You know what I like the most about being a black women?

We are all beautiful in every size and shade. I just love that we are a true rainbow of beautiful women!!!

Thanks for sharing such a touching hair story!!!

HELLO, WHERE YOU AT?

Shall be, So it shall be
Victory! Victory shall be mine!
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The Lord is in His Hloy temple
Let all the earth keep silent
Before Him
Amen
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I'm here!!! My hair is twisted. Hectic week. Local and state choir rehearsals ans district meetings. I love Jesus and I love COGIC (Church of God In Christ) . State choir will be in concert tonight. I am so excited about taking it back to the Old Landmark. Singing Medleys from gospel's greatest artists: Rev. Charles Nix, James Cleveland, Mattie Moss Clark, Thomas Whitfield & Rudolph Standfield.....

I am stalking the thread from my phone. I am internet challenged for a while. but I will take pics to post at a later date. Next week Northeast Michigan Jurisdiction will be in our annual workers meeting and it ends on Sunday the 14th. Thats on top of my local and home responsibilities then I am on vacation from the 18th thru the 22nd. Me and my bestie are headed to Chicago for her birthday.

ok I am going to try to sleep now.

Smooches

OOO Shee, I want to go! I want to go!!!

You betta sang!! I know if I were closer I would be there to support you! Enjoy your trip to Chi town with the bestie!

I wish you ladies could be with me in Detroit. It would be awesome to have some curlies there. I will keep you posted. Some of the services are streamed live. I will have to check into that. I am rocking a twist out for the concert.