Hair Venting >__< and considering a texturizer

just a suggestion, but if your hair soaks up moisture as you say, it may be overly porous...if that is the case, you could try henna treatments (once your hair gets a bit healthier) Henna treatments & Pre-Poo's literally saved my hair!

I just wanted to add-queen helene has minerol oil in it! Which blocks moisture. Jesse curl has a great deep condish. Think it's one of curly nikkis favorite, I've used it and it's great. Hang in there curly!

@ Miz B, I LOVE queen helen conditioner! I like it b/c it is very thick, and I need thickness for my hair. In the past I have used Redken which is really good but expensive. And I also use on occasion Salerm also expensive as well. Sometimes I also use CHI, which I would have to say is pretty darn good and makes it easier to comb my hair or blow it out. @ JnB, my hair get's very defined when wet, still in the 4's category in regards to my curl pattern. When it is dry, it gets extremely kinky and shrunken.. of course and @ cutephantasm, I used henna about 3 weeks ago and i know it works really well! And the pre-poo's im still trying to figure out lol \

thanks for the support you all

One suggestion Music - If the Queen Helene has Mineral Oil I'd probably be very careful. Thickness does not always lead to healthy hair. I was using a lot of stuff that was "thick" or looked good and once I started using products that had good ingredients I could see a major difference in my hair. Best wishes on your journey!

I have chronic dry hair as well.
Have you tried henna yet. It relaxed my curls a bit. Try looking on the ayurvedic thread, a lot of those herbal powders and oils will make you have softer and moisturized.

Also try a glycerine based product (or look into making your own) these eally haelped me.

I just BC'd a few weeks ago and some days I love my hair and some days I do not like it. I mositurize my hair several times a day with water and Knot Today....It helps alot. I think you your hair looks nice, my hair is really thick also and I co wash at least every other day, I also baggy at night sometimes. I carry my spray bottle to work and if my hair is dry I spritz it. I am also new to this.....Don't give up!

If you have defined curls when your hair is wet, then with the proper products and care you should be able to mimic that definition when the hair is dry. It may take some time and work, but once your hair is at it's best, you should start to see definition on your dry hair as well.

I agree with the others. Mineral oil is not the friendliest thing you can use. There are other thick deep treatments such as SheaMoisture Deep Treatment Masque. It can be found at Target. I'm all about doing what works for your hair. I wouldn't say not to use something that works just because it doesn't have the best ingredients. But if you're having problems with dryness, it would be best to stay away from products that block moisture from the hair.

Stay encouraged! I know you are getting lots of great advice, but I wanted to add my 2 cents. I always add honey and EVOO to my dc. I tried it on my aunts 4b hair this week and she immeadiately noticed a difference in the feel of her hair. Like you, she mainly wears her hair in twists only washing every 2-3 weeks, so I suggested cowashing and dcing more frequently.