Life of a Curly GIRL :)

BrownSkinDiva wrote:I just rather folks educate themselves on being natural prior to or after they jump on the band wagon. Going natural isnt the "recession" hair style, as I've heard it called, nor is it "easier" to maintain than a relaxer per se'.

I agree and I disagree. I definitely think people should educate themselves on being natural. Not to be overly critical or "natural nazi" like but I don't see the point in going natural if all you're going to do is continue to straighten your hair all the time. I don't see how anyone can see their curls and decide they can't rock them, or they don't want to learn how to deal with them. I especially don't understand that when they have so many resources out there who are more than willing to talk to them about how to deal with their hair and/or point them in the direction of someone else who knows more than they do.

With that being said, I'm not going to lie, part of why I decided to just go on and transition was because I couldn't afford to get another perm. It wasn't a big part, but the idea of paying $55 (it may be $60 now thanks to inflation)that I didn't have for another torture session didn't appeal to me. I'd been flirting with the idea of going natural after seeing some of my friends (BSD included) do it, and the lack of funds gave me the last little push I needed. Once I started actually doing research there was no turning back

I do think my natural hair is much easier to deal with. The only thing that was easier about my relaxed hair was the fact that I could put it in a ponytail, but I think within a couple of months I'll be able to do that with my natural hair.

I think when people go natural as part of a fad, that's fine. Do you. I wouldn't want you criticizing my hair decisions (especially when you don't have to deal with it or even look at it every day). But if you ARE doing it as part of a fad, I wish they'd still care enough to learn how to take care of it so they could look like something.

BrownSkinDiva wrote:^^ I understand what youre saying, my point is that some people feel that Natural hair is 100% less work and much easier than having a relaxer i.e. they dont feel that they need to moisturize it properly or wash it properly. Ive seen some people go natural and wear a dried fro with lint in it like they rolled out of the bed, no care for their hair at all. This is so true, but I believe this has to do with the total lack of knowledge and they just don't know where to get the information from. However, when they are told they still can't seem to embrace the need to properly take care of their natural hair. It can be real frustrating, and I feel sorry for those individuals because they will never get it. I work with a young lady that has been natural for over a year and she hasn't had any and I mean any hair growth!!! I had to stop her because I wanted to know what she was doing or rather not doing. I told her that she was not representing the natural community well at all, and I needed for her to check out a few websites. (CN was one)

Im NOT a natural nazi by any means, I feel if folks wanna go natural today and get a relaxer tomorrow thats you, but I dont like it when folks try and act interested in something when they arent sincere about it. Its just my opinion and I know we all view things differently though. I don't know if they are not sincere, but I do think that they want the look that makes them feel better (sounds like a commercial) however, they don't have the time or patience to do everything that is required for natural hair care...you know?


Im also not saying that everyone needs to have slept long nights in the library or do all day research on natural hair before they go natural im just saying there are some who dont do any research or care to learn about their hair WHILE or before they become natural because they dont really care about the health, but the look that their homegirl has so they want it too.

sweetdrk1 wrote:ok ya'll talking bout some thangs up in here! Well I was in the salon and they were asking my daughter why she didn't let her's go natural. Then one of the stylist said you don't have to be all on the forums like your mom. "I was like why do you care about how I get my natural knowledge" then I realized I am in her pocket because I don't get my hair done every other week anymore.

HA! You should have said "well we also don't have to be all in this salon or your chair" picked up your daughter and your purse and hit the road. LOL

QuietButterfly wrote:Hey BSD!!

I think natural hair is definitely becoming a trend/fad and some people are jumping on the band wagon, but when the smoke clears and its not considered as "cool" as it is right now, the ladies that were/are serious about being natural and taking care of their hair will be left standing.

I just read a short article yesterday about this young lady with long relaxed hair, well her friend made a comment that she would look "cooler" with her hair natural, so the next day the relaxed girl tried to get her hair to look as curly as possible so she could be considered "cool" in her friends eyes.

Also, some people might get caught up in the fad, but become educated on how beneficial it is, then decide to stay natural......so thats a good thing.

I do way more to my hair now that I'm natural, than when I had a relaxer, so I don't think natural hair is less work. I think it takes work, but its good work.