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MEGAFAITH- Posts : 166
Join date : 2010-05-06
Age : 41
Location : BIRMINGHAM A.L.
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Ssssooooo true, it's the simple things that make a difference!!
Karameldiva1978- Posts : 149
Join date : 2010-03-10
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I hate this phrase.... king of the cassle
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gigihaitiancurly- Posts : 100
Join date : 2010-04-17
Age : 35
Location : Buffalo NY
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Now that I'm working I get home after my husband, but when I wasn't working, I would try to make sure everything was just right for him. I'd fix his plate and have it in the microwave, make sure the bed was made, fix the pillows on the couch, etc.... Partly it was because I didn't want him to think I was just home being lazy all day. lol
BajanPrincess82- Posts : 910
Join date : 2009-10-25
Age : 41
Location : Houston, TX
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I just.....I dunno. Yes your husband should be happy to come home. When he comes home and I'm already screeching I know I'm dead wrong. BUT, he lives here too. How is it fair for him to not have to contribute to the upkeep of this house? What about the type of day that I've had? I deal with services because with him being active duty 1) he's not home a lot and 2) everything is in my name to avoid issues when he's actually deployed. If I've spent the day cleaning up, washing clothes, getting something repaired and going to the grocery store...I've been dealing with customer service type folk all day not to mention the traffic around base depending on what time I actually get to the commy. Where's MY backrub and cup of tea?
I dunno. I'm all for maybe having a little snack ready and getting the house to a temp he likes (he likes it cold) but dinner will hit the table when it hits it and whatever cleaning I haven't finished he can help with. He lives here too.
I dunno. I'm all for maybe having a little snack ready and getting the house to a temp he likes (he likes it cold) but dinner will hit the table when it hits it and whatever cleaning I haven't finished he can help with. He lives here too.
PaganWifey- Posts : 471
Join date : 2010-01-31
Location : Jacksonville FL
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My boyfriend and I share the household duties, from the bills right down to the dishes. We're both of the mindset that COUPLES share these responsibilities. There's no "breadwinner" or "man of the house". We both work, we both LIVE in our home, therefore we both contribute and that's how we like it.
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me and my hubby are a little different i suppose. it is nice to come home to a clean house and dinner and a dressed up wife is a bonus! lol. my husband first of all, doesnt like me in make-up so thats out of the question and it would be so unusal for me to be "dressed" when he gets home. i usually will try to have dinner ready, and i try not to have my night time clothes and scarf on. he could really care less though. we have two kids 3 and 10 months so i can barely get dinner done.
i am happy that i know my husband doesnt care what he comes home too, just as long as me and my kids are there safe and waiting he truly doesnt care what i look like or the house but i agree in some way with the youtuber, to a degree maybe every once in a while when time/kids allow, he will recieve a special home coming. btw, i work just like he does and most nights he is home before me, unless i am off for the day :
i am happy that i know my husband doesnt care what he comes home too, just as long as me and my kids are there safe and waiting he truly doesnt care what i look like or the house but i agree in some way with the youtuber, to a degree maybe every once in a while when time/kids allow, he will recieve a special home coming. btw, i work just like he does and most nights he is home before me, unless i am off for the day :
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LadyMika wrote:My boyfriend and I share the household duties, from the bills right down to the dishes. We're both of the mindset that COUPLES share these responsibilities. There's no "breadwinner" or "man of the house". We both work, we both LIVE in our home, therefore we both contribute and that's how we like it.
Same here, I've lived with my bf for 3 years and we share the responsibilities but are considerate. I hate taking out the trash/recycling so he does that and he hates cleaning the bathroom so I do that. But we alternatve washing dishes, and the general rule is whomever gets home first takes care of dinner (whether take out or cooking). I do sometimes clean up the whole house when I'm home and make him comfortable when he gets in from class or work and he defintely does the same for me even when I was in school.
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for some reason my computer wont let me watch it but i am married (but separated at the moment). my husband is also in the military so would be gone most of the day, when we were living together i wasn't working i was home with our son. i had/have no problem making sure the house was clean and his food was waiting. i did all the house chores and he worked the problem was/is that by me being home all day not "working" ( a 9-5) he didnt feel like i was really helping out. i dnt want a man feeling like he has "POWER/CONTROL" over me and that i'm supposed to do whatever he says, when he says , and exactly how he says. Raising a child and taking care of home is a FULL TIME job 24/7, 365. i dont mind doing things as long as its appreciated.
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I guess it takes a certain mindset to really embody the characteristics she describes. I work at at night and I'm home with my 4 and 1 year olds during the day. I don't get much sleep as you can probably imagine, but I try to make sure that I cook at least 3 times during the week, keep the laundry done, house cleaned, etc... Sure it's inconvenient and I'm tired, but he is my king and I want to make him happy and feel good about coming home. I strive to be a "Proverbs 31 woman." I know that I have the greatest influence over my family so I want to set a positive example of what a wife should be.
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I'm sorry about that Faja. My hubs gets upset if absolutely nothing gets done but as long as I worked at something (school, house, volunteer) he's good. He just wants us to put out equal effort during the workday.
PaganWifey- Posts : 471
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Location : Jacksonville FL
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LaToya28 wrote:I guess it takes a certain mindset to really embody the characteristics she describes. I work at at night and I'm home with my 4 and 1 year olds during the day. I don't get much sleep as you can probably imagine, but I try to make sure that I cook at least 3 times during the week, keep the laundry done, house cleaned, etc... Sure it's inconvenient and I'm tired, but he is my king and I want to make him happy and feel good about coming home. I strive to be a "Proverbs 31 woman." I know that I have the greatest influence over my family so I want to set a positive example of what a wife should be.
**Disclaimer** I'm not bashing your lifestyle just genuinely curious.
What about a positive example of what a husband should be? What about lifting the lady in your life up? Or being semi-sufficient so that, in the unfortunate event something should happen to your wife, you can care for your children?
PaganWifey- Posts : 471
Join date : 2010-01-31
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I'm not saying that a husband shouldn't lift a finger. I was a housewife for about 8 months (got a job that I started Monday - to GOD be the glory!!!!!) and in that 8 months I did most of the cooking and cleaning. My husband is an active-duty Soldier and I didn't want him to worry about the little things in the house if I could take care of them. On his days off he would cook or do laundry or whatever, but most of the time he was working/in the field/training/etc... Now that we both work, things are different. He usually gets home first so he'll cook/prepare leftovers and fix a plate for me. This weekend I cleaned the house and he took care of our vehicles, so we both did some much-need work around the house.
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BajanPrincess82- Posts : 910
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Oh and another question FOR EVERYONE while I'm thinking about it: If the roles had to be reversed could your husband do your tasks?
PaganWifey- Posts : 471
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Yes he would. He does them when I don't feel like it, or if I'm too tired, or if he just gets to whatever it is before I do. He says housework is "too easy" lol. The one thing that I HATE doing is dishes. He is the main dishwasher and I'm so thankful for that. I wash dishes like once a week. All the other nights, its on him (and he doesn't like to use the dishwasher...says its a waste of water and electricity)!
BajanPrincess82- Posts : 910
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my husband already does my role when i am a work and he is home with the kids....he just doesnt do as good a job as me
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But he tries! lol. That is what is important. My husband isn't the best cook in the world, but the other night he made some bangin salmon...he's learning and trying and thats what counts!thetiffany wrote:my husband already does my role when i am a work and he is home with the kids....he just doesnt do as good a job as me
BajanPrincess82- Posts : 910
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PaganWifey wrote:LaToya28 wrote:I guess it takes a certain mindset to really embody the characteristics she describes. I work at at night and I'm home with my 4 and 1 year olds during the day. I don't get much sleep as you can probably imagine, but I try to make sure that I cook at least 3 times during the week, keep the laundry done, house cleaned, etc... Sure it's inconvenient and I'm tired, but he is my king and I want to make him happy and feel good about coming home. I strive to be a "Proverbs 31 woman." I know that I have the greatest influence over my family so I want to set a positive example of what a wife should be.
**Disclaimer** I'm not bashing your lifestyle just genuinely curious.
What about a positive example of what a husband should be? What about lifting the lady in your life up? Or being semi-sufficient so that, in the unfortunate event something should happen to your wife, you can care for your children?
Just because it seems like I do a lot in my marriage doesn't mean that my husband is a slacker. I think he's a wonderful example of what a husband should be. He works a full-time job, takes classes online, and he's in the National Guard, takes care of the trash, yard, car maintenance, keeps the kids quiet or takes them out of the house when I need rest or when I want to go out and do something alone, and he helps out with chores around the house. He takes me out and buys me small gifts of appreciation on a regular basis. As for being sufficient, after I had our last daughter he pretty much did everything around the house so I have no doubt that he could hold it down if something happened to me.
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BajanPrincess82 wrote:But he tries! lol. That is what is important. My husband isn't the best cook in the world, but the other night he made some bangin salmon...he's learning and trying and thats what counts!thetiffany wrote:my husband already does my role when i am a work and he is home with the kids....he just doesnt do as good a job as me
I agree!
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PaganWifey wrote:Oh and another question FOR EVERYONE while I'm thinking about it: If the roles had to be reversed could your husband do your tasks?
Work all night and then have to care for 2 little ones during the day and another one who's in school...heck no! He'd probably snap after 3 days. LOL I'm much better with the kids.
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BajanPrincess82 wrote:But he tries! lol. That is what is important. My husband isn't the best cook in the world, but the other night he made some bangin salmon...he's learning and trying and thats what counts!thetiffany wrote:my husband already does my role when i am a work and he is home with the kids....he just doesnt do as good a job as me
absolutely and he does a fine job trying
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My BF and have been living together for about a year now. dating for 4 years in January 11. Before he moved in we discussed how the bills will be paid and how the chores would be seperated. I can be a bit anal when it comes to cleaning, and then get pissed when everyone else is not as "concerned" about cleaning.
But, I've learned to relax and not be so stressed about it. However he does all the cooking,
(however once and a while I put something special in the crock pot ). I do all the laundry and my son takes care of the garbage; we all vacumm, clean bathrooms and my daughter does the dishes. We all do any gardening required and evrything works out. I agree with those who discussed sharing responsibilities. However, we both work outside of the home everyday. If I was working at home and or arrived home before him, I might behave differently. But, I can't say for sure.
But, I've learned to relax and not be so stressed about it. However he does all the cooking,
(however once and a while I put something special in the crock pot ). I do all the laundry and my son takes care of the garbage; we all vacumm, clean bathrooms and my daughter does the dishes. We all do any gardening required and evrything works out. I agree with those who discussed sharing responsibilities. However, we both work outside of the home everyday. If I was working at home and or arrived home before him, I might behave differently. But, I can't say for sure.
curlya- Posts : 269
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I THINK ITS IMPORTANT TO JUST FIND A BALANCE AND WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM. DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU.
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I agree. No one can determine what works in someone else's house and/or relationship.MS. FAJA wrote:I THINK ITS IMPORTANT TO JUST FIND A BALANCE AND WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM. DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU.
BajanPrincess82- Posts : 910
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LOL.. I actually loved the video and thought it was nice..
BUT.. I am far from the wife she described.. LOL.. For the first half of our marriage I was somewhat that wife.. I worked full time, cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, did the grocery shopping, took care of all the bills (made sure they were paid), washed & folded all the clothes, and at one time went to school full time (B.S. & Masters), you name it I probably did it, while the only real thing he had to do was come home, maybe take out the trash and keep the cars cleaned... I do not remember greating him, or attempting to get all fresh and clean for him when he got home, I was usually busy doing something.. remember kids, cleaning, dinner. Now I am somewhat the total opposite.. I don't clean as much as I used to, cook as much as I used to, I expect him to share in these things because we both work and for 99.9% of our marriage we both have worked. So now I clean on a regular basis (not as anal as I used to be), I cook every now and then (my kids still eat every night!), and depending on the occasion when we go out I might get all "dressed up".
BUT.. I am far from the wife she described.. LOL.. For the first half of our marriage I was somewhat that wife.. I worked full time, cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, did the grocery shopping, took care of all the bills (made sure they were paid), washed & folded all the clothes, and at one time went to school full time (B.S. & Masters), you name it I probably did it, while the only real thing he had to do was come home, maybe take out the trash and keep the cars cleaned... I do not remember greating him, or attempting to get all fresh and clean for him when he got home, I was usually busy doing something.. remember kids, cleaning, dinner. Now I am somewhat the total opposite.. I don't clean as much as I used to, cook as much as I used to, I expect him to share in these things because we both work and for 99.9% of our marriage we both have worked. So now I clean on a regular basis (not as anal as I used to be), I cook every now and then (my kids still eat every night!), and depending on the occasion when we go out I might get all "dressed up".
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