im seriously about to cry

i had so many knots and tangles in my hair when I washed it today, I pretty much cried. A chunk of my hair came out at one point and I nearly just died. I know it's permed hair and I'm gonna cut it off anyway but it's still MY hair and i don't want it to come out.

I'm so stressed now, my dad is annoying me, AP exams and SAT's are coming up and my teachers just keep loading up the hw and just want to roll up somewhere and just cry and go to sleep. I know somebody is going to say cut it but I'm just not ready for it yet, I'm afraid what people at my high school is going to say. AND i know someone is going to say you shouldn't care what other people think and blah blah but I can't help it; I've always been very insecure.

Wow I know this became a rant but I needed let some stuff out.

Hi I BC'd on Feb. 28 and I know exactly how you feel. I'm in my last year of high school and I'd wash my hair on my own to stretch the times when I'd have to go to the hairdresser's and get it braided. SO much hair would come out when I'd comb through the conditioner, and then SO much more when my mom would comb it out and blow dry it and I would just bawl because I'm one of those tender-headed fools and the mum's is a bit heavy-handed. For me, with all the 'last year of school', SAT, college Apps, homework stress combined with transitioning kind fo got me to the point where the stress reflected in my hair and how I treated it so maybe the best thing I could tell you is that to give yourself some time to chill out before handling your hair because when everything is just driving you insane [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.] it definitely reflects in how you handle your hair sicne you just want to get it done and out of the way so you can get back to pulling it out while you're studying.

I'm not telling you to cut it but I will tell you that the scalp breeze (I got comb coils right after so there were a myriad of parts in my hair), the scalp breeze is really relaxing.
Um, that's it, lol sorry for the length and Good Luck.

Oh and if all else fails, just give in and have a good bawl or nap and have it later. [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

I agree with AdriEm. Maybe the BC is your solution. But if not you should consider getting braids. Just until this phase of stress in your life passes. The stress can be causing your hair loss as well. You have to be patient as a transitioner and take your time. If time is something you don't have braid, weave or wig it up until you have some time perhaps during the summer. But just remember you have to still take care of your hair in or under what ever you do.
HOPE THAT HELPS. GOD BLESS ON YOUR JOURNEY!!!

BTW, my BC was March 2nd after transitioning for 1 yr.

Thanks guys I do feel much better now.

I didn't cry (because I refuse to) but I just numbed my mind with youtube. My hair is in a twist-out/frohawk now so I'm feeling better. Still stress but not as much as I was that day.

Awesome Possum. Good luck with your exams.

I totally understand your pain. I am almost at 6 months and my last wash was a mess; I had so many tangles and more hair came out than usual. But I refuse to cut my hair until I am at 18 months. I try not to think about my hair. I just bun it everyday now. I will probably get braids/sew in within the next few weeks and wear that for the remainder of the summer, but I know I am the type that would regret a BC, and I would regret it immediately. It's not what other peeople think; I think I look better with mid to long length hair, so I totally understand. Perhaps you should try braiding it or wearing a weave for a while just so you don't have to worry with your hair. I say do not cut unless you are absolutely ready to do so.

This too shall pass! I've been there...my hair was a mess today! I am 5 months post and my hair is getting thicker by the minute. I decided to co-wash today...my second this week. I was able to detangle with my wide tooth comb and denman in a few minutes, put my hair in a pony and roll the ends. I use Pureology Hydrate conditioner and it has made detangling a breeze. At first, I tried a new product and it made my hair a tangled mess. So, I got back in the shower, slathered my hair with Pureology and detangled under the shower stream

Thanks everyone for their kind words Yeah I forced myself to not look at anything related to school or college today and took a nice nap. It's Spring Break now so I am happy, even though of course I have homework :/

Hello skluffy,

I'm Kay and also in high school and long term transitioning. I completely understand what you are saying about the stresses during this time of year. I strongly believe that stress is a major factor in your hair loss. Towards 5 months of transitioning, I went through the same experience. I began to partake in stress relieving activities such as exercising, writing, etc. Whatever works for you. I now have minimal hair loss, it is also important that you use plenty of conditioner with a great slip in the shower when detangling, you don't want to force the comb through at all.

I know you touched on the factor of what others will say, WELL...entering my junior year, I turned over a new leaf. I stopped caring about what negative things others may have to say. I changed styles of clothing, friends, and and changing my hair. I began to focus on what makes me happy, not in a self-centered way, but what would take possible stress factors away. If you wish to do something to YOUR hair, but are afraid what others will say... my advice is to just do you. They don't have to see the hair loss when you get home, nor do they fight the struggles of transitioning.

Be you and be happy :]

I've been doing just that ! [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]