Not to do with hair (KINDA)

Is it just me or have any of you found that white guys love teh whole natural hair look more so than black guys? They just seem fascinated by it!!!!

Haha that is so funny. Because I will say that my white and hispanic friends were so much more supportive and excited I was transitioning. I have a lot of male friends more of other race then black and they genuinely will ask how I am doing in my transition and want to see pictures of my hair. On top of that I really want to BC and they are like DO IT. SO yea in my experience I totally agree with you. AND most interracial couples that i do see here the lady is a natural.

Yep most White, hispanic men and so on are more welcoming of natural hair than our own men a pity if you ask me lol

I haven't really found that to be true. Throughout my 28 years of wearing natural hair, most of my compliments have come from black men and women. Other races may comment from time to time, but nothing like my brothas and sistas.

Imgettingthere wrote:Is it just me or have any of you found that white guys love teh whole natural hair look more so than black guys? They just seem fascinated by it!!!!

I agree . I've met one guy so far, that is black and likes my hair. idk what's up with the rest of the brothas

Yea, I'm married my husband loves my natural hair (he's black and rican like me) And I notice I get a lot more looks from white, hispanic, even asian guys *gasp* than from black men. I even had a white guy ask me the no-no question....."Can I touch your hair?"

@Isis: The no-no question! HA funniest thing I've heard today!! Mainly because it truly is a no-no!!

@Bajanprincess82: I think you my dear live in a wonderful place because I have yet to find one black man who agrees with natural. Natural looking weave yes but natural?!?!?!?! NOT THAT!!!!

I dunno I think its crazy I get 1 or 2 things from black woman. 1) being they LOVE it because their also natural, transitioning, or just like natural hair wish they could do it but they "dont have the time, patience, and are too scared of what other people will have to say. like her family, friends, co-workers," ..BLAH BLAH BLAH SHOOT ME IN THE FACE

And 2) why would you do that? "It's ugly, you look like a slave, its too much work, you'll never find a job..." BLAH BLAH BLAH SHOOT ME IN THE FACE.

I've learned to shut those kids down. BUT black men (straight ones at least) I think have been hooked on weave, of all kinds, and brain washed by Beyonce, and who ever else is at the top now to think thats what we should be looking like about the head.

I dunno, I'm rambling. I've just noticed that black men and natural hair no matter what lies they say on a camara are not really feeling it ma and share in the Method Man train of thought!

Crazy

*Sigh* When I went natural I didn't do any transitioning. I had shoulder length relaxer one day and then the next day it was as short as a guy's. I didn't even don the TWA! So I went from getting attention from the brothers to getting it from the others. I used to think it strange but I cannot wrap my mind around why it seems so. My husband (Turkish) doesn't care for when I do straighten my hair. He says it's not me.

Well, it isn't.

I had this experience mostly when I had a twa.
I never got as much attention in my entire life from guys until the day I big chopped down to about 2 inches.

Guys were following me around saying I was beautiful with big puppy eyes like this --->

It was weird and fun.
Almost makes me miss my twa.
Almost...

In my own epinion - it may be because the 'others' like us for our own 'otherness' to them.

Others like us because of our own otherness[b][i]

LOVE IT @Aunt_Lola

Yes, i couldn't agree more. My fiance is white and he LOVEs the fact that i've decided to go natural and BC.

Imgettingthere wrote:@Isis: The no-no question! HA funniest thing I've heard today!! Mainly because it truly is a no-no!!

@Bajanprincess82: I think you my dear live in a wonderful place because I have yet to find one black man who agrees with natural. Natural looking weave yes but natural?!?!?!?! NOT THAT!!!!

I dunno I think its crazy I get 1 or 2 things from black woman. 1) being they LOVE it because their also natural, transitioning, or just like natural hair wish they could do it but they "dont have the time, patience, and are too scared of what other people will have to say. like her family, friends, co-workers," ..BLAH BLAH BLAH SHOOT ME IN THE FACE

And 2) why would you do that? "It's ugly, you look like a slave, its too much work, you'll never find a job..." BLAH BLAH BLAH SHOOT ME IN THE FACE.

I've learned to shut those kids down. BUT black men (straight ones at least) I think have been hooked on weave, of all kinds, and brain washed by Beyonce, and who ever else is at the top now to think thats what we should be looking like about the head.

I dunno, I'm rambling. I've just noticed that black men and natural hair no matter what lies they say on a camara are not really feeling it ma and share in the Method Man train of thought!

Crazy

I've lived in quite a few places (NY, VA, Germany, OK, and now TX) and have never really received negative feedback like you mention. I'm really surprised that people would be that ignorant to say stuff like that to you! I married a black man and have dated MANY, and none of them had a problem with my natural hair. Maybe its all in the way you style it or how you carry yourself...I don't know.

I have noticed this in all the years I stopped burning my hair out.

I would like to think that I just look better with my natural hair. I feel like I do. I look back on my pressed/flat-ironed years and it actually added years to my life. I just think my hotness factor with big curly hair went up a notch, LOL.

Black men have been beaten into their heads that black women with silky straight hair is the bomb since they were young. Look at all the hip-hop music videos and the commercials that accompany those. Nothing but black women with long, silky hair. Silky, straight hair = pretty, sexy; afro = militant, serious and ugly. Its OK if you have "good hair" though. Its a sad situation all around.