How do you do that?

Hola ladies,

So this is going to be the most pathetic thing I have by far ever done BUT what the hell?! Hopefully I'll never actually be recognized in the streets by any of you SO HERE WE GO....

How exactly does this dating thing work? I'm 23 and have never actually been asked out. On a date. (Kissed=yes; Date,boyfriend,etc=no) I'm a pretty girl and nice and all the junk everyone claims they want. I "put myself out there" all the time and to avail...what's the deal?

I'm beyond the point of depression with this mess and nearing just not caring. I'm scared i'll one of those cat ladies on Hoarders when i get older... what to do? what to do? what to do?


(WOW...i can't believe I just posted this )

Psh. I could not tell you. I've never been asked on a date either. BUT. I've been married for 3months. I said that to bring up the point of Just because it doesn't happen like it does on TV doesn't mean it won't happen. Patience is key. I'm not sure how religious you are but pray on it. In the mean time, work on making you the best you so that when your King, Prince Charming, Mr. Right comes along you will be ready for him.

Sidenote: I'm a Ft. Worth native who lurks around Dallas, so if see you, I'll look the other way. This convo never happened lol

Ladies,

Check out The Experience. We talk about all this stuff from a Christian perspective. It's a post on there called single and saved. I think it's good sound advice.

As for me, I kissed dating goodbye. I'm waiting to be found by the man that God designed especially for me! It's difficult at times, but so rewarding. I'm 28...working on my Ph.D, working on my relationship with God, living life, and HAPPY about it!

@Mandi...congrats and my prayers for a long-lasting marriage

Peace and Love

would you ever consider being the one to ask the guy out??

@ MelMelBee-The Experience is a great site. Check out http://kimontheweb.com/ and http://www.christian-single-woman.com/. I'm sure you'll enjoy these sites as well.

brownsuga83 wrote:@ MelMelBee-The Experience is a great site. Check out http://kimontheweb.com/ and http://www.christian-single-woman.com/. I'm sure you'll enjoy these sites as well.

Praise God! Both of those sites are awesome. I will certainly be sharing them with my single sisters. Thanks so much for sharing

Melanie

You're very welcome! Make sure you sign up for Kim Brooks' daily devotionals. They will definitely minister to you because they are really helping me right now as I'm going thru a break up after 1 yr. Don't forget to check out her books too. They're really good.

@jazmineb - noted suggestion but I've done that before. It gets embassing ad down right sad!

Hi Imgettingthere, I'll tell you what I have told single friends before. Men and women.

Sometimes when you are looking so hard for someone, its hard to meet them. A person gets a desperate look in their eyes and manner. That is kind of scary to someone who might be mildly interested. A friend of mine got to the point of informing any man she met that she was only interested in marriage and children.

Change your goal from meeting a man to enjoying life. Join some clubs or do activities you wouldn't normally be interested in, not with the goal of meeting a man, but with the goal of learning or doing something new. You'll meet interesting people who have friends.

Volunteer your time, join a club training for marathons. Find new things outside of your regular interests to meet a different people. Keep busy. You will meet someone for you. And happy people get asked out faster. IMO

Friends First! Approach it casually without any intentions in mind. Having male friends definitely helps understand them a little better. And if you are attracted to a guy and want to get to know him better, tell him....may I ask what you are embarassed about?

You can wait on him to find you, but definitley put yourself in positions to be found. He's not going to knock on your door with a bouquet of roses and say, "I'm hear, heard you been waitin"!!!! My mom is 64, divorced from my late daddy since 2002 and still waiting for this perfect image of what she thinks he's supposed to be. Save the fairytales for the movies.

When the time is right you will meet that person for you Dont go looking for it because sometimes you dont get what you really want As some of the ladies here stated pray on it volunteer some times & most importantly get to know yourself and learn how to be alone I havent had a man in my life for years and I have really learned how to be alone & like it not feeing like I have to have someone in my life

I feel that when the time is right I will meet the man God has sent for me
Good luck

Hmm maybe you have been and you just dont know it. Not everyman speaks the same language. Case in point, my bestie and I were at a party out of town, chatting it up with these guys one of whom it was obvious to me was interested in my bestie. How do I know, he went out of his way to mention he was from and lived in Brooklyn (we are from NY) and then proceeded to find a connection to all our haunts, all the time looking at her with some intense looks. But she never caught on, totally clueless which sucked cause she thought he was hot. He threw out feelers she blocked it and so they never got the asking out part. Like one person said live your life and these opportunities will come. But also learn to recognize them when they show up. ENJOY BEING SINGLE please for me!!! I love my husband, but man some days...woosah!

msoverproof wrote:Hmm maybe you have been and you just dont know it. Not everyman speaks the same language. Case in point, my bestie and I were at a party out of town, chatting it up with these guys one of whom it was obvious to me was interested in my bestie. How do I know, he went out of his way to mention he was from and lived in Brooklyn (we are from NY) and then proceeded to find a connection to all our haunts, all the time looking at her with some intense looks. But she never caught on, totally clueless which sucked cause she thought he was hot. He threw out feelers she blocked it and so they never got the asking out part. Like one person said live your life and these opportunities will come. But also learn to recognize them when they show up. ENJOY BEING SINGLE please for me!!! I love my husband, but man some days...woosah!

bbbwhhhhahahaha....at bolded comment above!!!

@Mizcreativelyme...GURL lol that man can drive Jesus to drink lemme tell you. I keep threatening to not come home after work, just run away...LOL. Being married aint not joke! toughesht job after motherhood. But on the low... I like that it keep things spicey..lol

I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship either. First it was because I was too busy focusing on school then it was I was to busy focusing on being a volunteer. It's been hard to find a guy that realizes they can't be the center of my attention all the time. I've been asked out but it never goes anywhere.