Eight years natural, can't go another day w/o Big Sis

I had no clue such a forum existed to help me in my journey! Almost eight years ago, I transitioned to my curly origins. I did not have any friends at that time who were natural, so I felt like I was forging my own path. Along the way, I have tried almost everything, at least so I thought. Recently, one of my best friends pointed me to this site and started to fill me in on her regimen for hair care. I think she may have assumed since I was so many years under my belt, that I had it all figured out. But I don't!!! After browsing this site, I realized I need a Big Sister, pronto. I have never been able to control my hair like I want to, so whenever I am fed up with fighting the frizzies, I blow, flat iron, and go. I think my hair type is 4b. I feel like I am starting all the way over again. I want to start with learning out to co-wash and use some type of oil for my scalp. Bunning in the winter?! Sulfate free shampoo? Silcone free conditioner? HEEELLLPPP!!

Thanks for replying! I will check out the products that you recommended. Since this will be my first co-washing, should I shampoo one last time, then condition? Do you actually rinse all of the conditioner out? When you say seal in the moisture, just liberally apply oil or butter after conditioning, but before it dries, correct? Last, but not least, when you use castor oil, jojoba oil, or the coconut oil, do you mix it, or just use it straight? I took a look at your Fotki page, your hair looks really healthy!

I have wanted to try Afroveda for a while now, I think I am going to take the plunge. I have been such a product junkie, because I always felt nothing worked on my hair, but I think my major problem is lack of moisture.